Are you stuck?
Shame, self-hatred and hopelessness are often the close companions of men who feel trapped in a binge-purge cycle of pornography, affairs, anonymous hookups or paying for sex. If you're reading this website, it's likely you or a loved one have been stuck for years, maybe even decades, in the shame cycle that unwanted sexual behaviors create.
You know how it works. We find ourselves feeling overwhelmed by life, so we escape into our sexual fantasies, where we're always desired and we're always in control. It feels easier to numb our emotions with pornography and sex than to face the pain of life.
Here's the problem: after we come down from that sexual high, the feelings and circumstances we were trying to escape are still there, plus the new pile of shame we created by violating our values and acting out after promising ourselves we'd never do that again. Feeling worse than ever, we try again to escape reality. This time, in order to get the same high, we look at more perverse images or engage in riskier sex. And the cycle goes on and on and on.
It doesn't have to be this way. Freedom is possible!
As a sex addiction recovery coach, I'd like to be your guide on the journey to radical freedom from pornography and unwanted sexual behavior. I'll help you rewire your addicted brain, heal your wounded heart, connect intimately with God, and build healthy relationships.
Take a moment and imagine yourself fully free from the bondage of sex addiction. In that world, your loved ones see you as a man of integrity. You know what it feels like to be fully known and fully loved. You have nothing to hide. You have discovered the "good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." (Ephesians 2:10) You know joy, peace, and contentment.
That life doesn't have to be a dream. It can be your reality.
You've probably been trying to secretly fight this battle against pornography and unwanted sexual behavior on your own for a long time. Is it working? You don't have to fight alone anymore. It's time to finally end the war that's been raging inside your mind. Change your life, right now, and ask for help.
Who you choose to help you find freedom is no small choice. You need to find someone who knows what they're talking about and who is trustworthy. You can trust John. He will help you and will faithfully walk with you through this critically important season.
---- Josh Kalsbeek, Psychotherapist, Co-Founder of rTribe
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Hi. I'm John Stamper. I'm a beloved child of God, husband, father, recovery coach, and writer. I'd like to be your guide on the journey to radical freedom from pornography and unwanted sexual behavior. My goal is to help you rewire your addicted brain, heal your wounded heart, connect intimately with God, and build healthy relationships.
I know what it feels like to experience brokenness and the toll shame can take on a man's physical, emotional, social and spiritual life. When I chose to fully surrender my sin to God and ask another person for help, though, I found the radical freedom I thought my actions had made impossible.
Today, I've been trained as a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP) by the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP), I'm a certified provider of the Inner Child Recovery Process and I'm a certified leader of premium online groups for The Freedom Fight. I'm also a member of the International Coaching Federation, the gold standard in coaching certification and ethics, and the American Association of Christian Counselors. And I'm a student at Coaching4Clergy, a rigorous training program accredited by the ICF, where I've completed more than 120 hours of training.
My prayer is that you will join me in holding tight to the words of the Apostle Paul in Galatians 5:1: "It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery."
It's time to get radical in the pursuit of freedom! I'd love to help.
What People Say
Ken Brink, Lay Counselor
Radical freedom is available and John can help you find it! If you feel stuck and want to overcome your unwanted sexual behavior, John knows what works. When I was struggling, he provided me invaluable, practical insights learned from personal experience. If you are looking for help identifying and effectively addressing the root causes of what holds you back from living the life you were created to live, John will provide the coaching that you need. I highly recommend him.
Brian Bolton, Pastor
I've known John and his family for more than 15 years as his pastor. He's been a faithful servant and active church member. I've seen John draw close to God, trust God, and face the dark spots of his heart. I've been blessed by his wisdom, grace, and friendship. John is so much more than a church member. He's a child of God and my friend.
How I Can Help You
A great place to start your journey toward freedom from unwanted sexual behavior is with a complimentary coaching call with John. You can experience a confidential coaching session with no risk, no commitment, and no sleazy hard sell.
We'll start with a 30-minute coaching session focused on your long-term goals. I'll also take about 15 minutes to explain the coaching process and how I help people, and answer any questions you might have. Why not schedule a free appointment today?
I offer three-month coaching packages for individuals, a seven-month group coaching package and a la carte individual coaching sessions. You can learn more about these options below, or find answers to many frequently asked questions on my FAQ page.
Need financial assistance? To apply for reduced-cost or free coaching, please click here. Freedom awaits!
90 Days for Freedom
Jump start your journey to freedom from unwanted sexual behavior with 13 weeks of intensive coaching with John, plus free check-in calls and texts. You don't have to fight alone anymore.
Join a group led by John! Take a leap toward freedom from unwanted sexual behavior with a group of up to six men. We'll meet for 90 minutes each week for 7 months, using a proven curriculum.
A la carte coaching
Do you feel hopelessly stuck in unwanted sexual behavior? It doesn't have to be that way. Freedom is possible. Start now with a 1-on-1 coaching call with John.